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Episode 19 – How To Improve Communication

This episode of the Rob Scott Show is about becoming a better communicator. We explore how to improve both mindful speaking and active listening skills.

This episode touches on how mindful communication will help your relationships improve. Learning to share yourself, and being present when listening creates intimacy. With this skill, you will experience fewer misunderstandings, less conflict, and less isolation. And instead find more joy, connection and wellbeing.

The goal of our communication shouldn’t be “perfect communication.” Instead we want to shoot for honest and authentic communication.

Other Topics Covered in this Episode:

  • Dissecting Meaningful Communication
  • Defining What Active Listening Is
  • Qualities of a “Good” Listener
  • How Mindfulness Can Help Communication
  • Being More Present in Conversations
  • Why Mindful Listening Can Create Connection
  • Exploring How Healthy Communication Builds Intimacy
  • The Technique of “Mirroring”
  • Authentic Speaking and Radical Honesty
  • All About Honesty and “Into-Me-See”
  • How to “Receive” in our Listening
  • Learning to Find the Wealth in Listening
  • The Difference Between Prayer and Meditation
  • A Shortcut to Finding Presence
  • The Joy in Making Intimate Connections
  • Honest and Authentic Speaking

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Episode 18 – Use Gratitude to Be Happy

This episode answers all your burning questions about how to be happier right now. Rob and Sarah do a deep dive on gratitude. They get specific on what gratitude is and how to have more of it in your life.

You’ll learn useful tips on how to recognize and embody the actual feeling of gratitude. Plus, you’ll discover why gratitude may be the “mental medicine” you need. It can be the root source in your life to feel more love, joy, and connection. Rob also teaches a simple and powerful gratitude practice called “3G3.”

They also examine how expectation can be the opposite of gratitude. You’ll learn how expectation and attachment affect your mind. Finally, you’ll hear some different ways to manage your “desire muscle.” Managing attachment allows you to have helpful expectations. As well as grow your emotional intelligence.

Other Topics Covered in this Episode:

  • Three Types of Meditation Practices
  • How to Embody the Feeling of Gratitude
  • Examining What Mindfulness Means
  • The Difference Between Thinking & Sensation
  • The Power of Being in the Present
  • How to Become More Enlightened
  • Gratitude, the “Mental Medicine”
  • Managing Where You Focus Attention
  • Comparing Down as a Survival Skill
  • The 3G3 Gratitude Practice
  • How Gratitude Facilitates Connection
  • Exploring Why Expectation Happens
  • How Expectations Can Be Beneficial to Us
  • The Mental Error that Causes Suffering
  • A Shortcut to Creating Change

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Episode 17 – Humans Greatest Misconception

This episode of the Rob Scott Show opens with a big question. What is the biggest misconception of humankind?

That question kicks off an interesting and candid discussion. We explore human attachment to belief. Plus, survival mechanisms, and how to gain the highest quality of mind.

You’ll learn exactly what attachment means, and how it’s actually a skill that protects us. You’ll also hear how awareness of what beliefs you attach too matters. It can be what keeps you stuck in a loop or propels you into being a powerful action taker.

Finally, you’ll learn about the importance of balance, and why it’s important to manage our desires. Rob also talks about duality and shares what he thinks the most detrimental mindset might be.

Other Topics Covered in this Episode:

  • The Biggest Misconception About Humans
  • The Mental Mechanism That Creates Habits
  • Enlightened leaders in our Past
  • Examining to Our Powerful Beliefs Patterns
  • How the Ego Influences Us
  • Understanding Desire and Cravings
  • Attachment as a Survival Mechanism
  • Learning Where Patterns Come From
  • The Importance of Balance
  • Navigating the We Space and the “I” Space
  • Comparing Conflict vs War
  • Awareness of Beliefs
  • Managing our Attachments
  • Learning How to Take Action in Your Life

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Episode 16 – Codependency and Self Love

Codependency shows itself in very subtle ways and is often hidden beneath other factors. Even though it’s hard to put our finger on it all the time, it will hurt us greatly if it goes unnoticed and uncorrected.

Simply defined, codependency is the “lost self.”

Culturally, we are receiving messaging that often glorifies codependency. Society celebrates the “happy ending” in such a way that encourages us to look outwards for love. And doesn’t emphasize how important it is to love ourselves first.

Often we talk about this in the setting of relationships. But codependency can also occur with processes or substances as well as with people. It’s really when we “lose ourselves” to something outside ourselves.

This episode offers a new perspective on codependency. We draw some meaningful parallels between codependency and addiction. You’ll also learn some clear symptoms of codependent relationships.

Then discover tips on how to avoid a cycle of codependency in your own life. (HINT: Self love is crucial.)

Finally, we’ll share some simple mindset shifts that will help you find and hold important boundaries. And become more aware of your own needs.

Some topics covered in this episode:

  • Explaining what codependency is.
  • How addiction is related to codependency.
  • Dissecting “identity.”
  • Why your values matter.
  • Cultural influence on codependency.
  • How awareness can prevent an identity crisis.
  • Ways to be more emotionally resilient.
  • Codependency and enmeshment.
  • The model of development.
  • Why looking outwards for our happiness is dangerous.
  • How boundaries help manage overfunctioning.
  • Tips on improving self care.
  • Stopping codependency for future generations.
  • Why self love is the answer.

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Episode 15 – Optimize for Success and Happiness

There are two very different tracks the field of psychology is interested in. Historically it’s been mostly about fixing dysfunction. Helping sick people get to “normal.” But more recently, psychologists are learning what it takes to go from normal to becoming exceptional.

In this episode we get into Martin Seligman’s “Three Lives” which are three areas we can grow and change right now. There are three clear things that can make your normal life much more exceptional.

By the end of this you’ll know how to increase everyday pleasure for yourself. You’ll know how to find more passion and flow states. And how to add more purpose and deep meaning to your life.

Improving any one of these areas will help you, but growing all three can really change the game for you.

Rob also provides a handful of quick tips to help you improve. We discuss how mindfulness can give you sustainable pleasure. What the actual difference is between passions, pleasures, and purpose. And we share a valuable mindset shift to help you discover what your purpose is.

In this episode we also discuss:

  • The two goals of psychology.
  • Three pillars of happiness.
  • Getting from suffering to normal.
  • Getting from normal to exceptional.
  • Understanding the three kinds of lives.
  • Increasing sustainable pleasure.
  • How being in experience makes us wealthy.
  • Finding what your passions are.
  • Dropping into more flow states.
  • The difference between pleasures and passions.
  • Discover what really make us happy.
  • How important purpose is to fulfillment.
  • How to simplify finding your purpose.
  • How to blend the “Three P’s.”
  • The story of Marge and her bowling team.
  • How to increase self love.
  • Rewiring our stories about ourselves.

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Episode 14 – Identity Politics

Do you lack clarity and the capability to navigate your own values? Or how to share them in a healthy, peaceful way with others?

This episode of the Rob Scott Show examines the topic of Identity Politics. It’s showing up faster and more aggressively in our world more than ever before.

We need to understand what identity politics is and why it’s needed. But also what to do when it becomes toxic. If we can be more aware of when this is happening, it’s going to be massively helpful for us.

Having this skill will help us govern ourselves better politically. It allows us to grow in our wisdom, and avoid conflict. There are ways to connect with other people, even if we don’t agree with them or come from the same origins.

Our focus should be on finding a sharing humanity. Not dividing ourselves based off characteristics we can’t control. It’s not useful to judge others based on their skin color, gender, sexual orientation, etc…

Finding zones of agreement will give us the ability to empathize. Understand that we are part of a bigger, shared space here on planet earth.

In this episode we also discuss:

    • Understanding what Identity Politics is.
    • Why it’s important to understand other groups.
    • How Zones of Agreement can be useful.
    • The history of Identity Politics.
    • The search for shared humanity.
    • About tribalism and “us” versus “them.”
    • Why are Identity Politics happening?
    • Defining virtue signaling.
    • Understanding groupthink phenomenon.
    • Becoming more aware of our values.
    • What’s required for virtuous leadership.
    • Valid and invalid arguments.
    • Ways to stay out of conflict.
    • How awareness can decrease divisiveness.

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Episode 13 – Less is More

Do you find yourself surrounded by clutter?

Its it causing you stress and anxiety?

This episode of the Rob Scott Show offers useful tips on how to be a more mindful consumer in many different areas.

There’s a variety of ways we consume. An obvious place we consume is in the collection of physical items. But this episode explores it all…

See we consume in other areas as well. This talk also explores ways we consume food, technology, information, attention and more.

The mindset of needing “infinitely more,” is just not sustainable.

The rate of consumption in our world is increasing quickly. Because the population has grown rapidly, we need to be mindful of the resources we have available to us. Growing better consumption habits helps to preserve the limited resources.

There’s a personal danger in mindlessly consuming as well.

It’s important we have awareness about what our values are. The key is that more isn’t always better, especially if it isn’t serving us.

Minimalism can have benefits to you.

There’s a value in “less,” because it keeps us out of overwhelm, stress, and decision fatigue. In fact, consuming less means more clarity. Which equates to more productivity and healthier financial habits.

True joy is not often found in the consuming. Instead it’s appreciating and valuing the things you do have. It’s important to discern what your values are and not simply buying more to “fill the void.”

Plus, clearing out the things that aren’t adding value to your life leaves you space for more good to enter.

In this episode we also discuss:

    • How mindless consumption harms us.
    • Defining consumption.
    • Learning about individual consumption.
    • Understanding collective consumption.
    • The cost of clutter.
    • Mindless vs Mindful consuming.
    • The impossible goal of infinitely more.
    • The sustainability mindset.
    • Planned and perceived obsolescence.
    • How your values help you consume responsibly.
    • Why more isn’t always “better.”
    • Exploring the rate of consumption.
    • “I want” vs “I need.”
    • The different type of consumption.
    • Dissecting the attention economy.
    • Learning mindful spending habits.
    • How to clarify your values.
    • Ways we can add “ease” into our lives.
    • The benefits of having less.

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Episode 12 – How to End Suffering

Suffering seems universal. Many of us get caught up in a whirlwind of stress, anxiety, and depression. We push against the reality of “what is.” We try to control things we can’t change, resist the feelings we have, and wish for different outcomes.

But here’s a little known secret…

Suffering is simply, resisting what is. And so It’s our own mind that actually keeps us stuck in the cycle of suffering.

Many people are unaware they have the capability to solve this problem. This episode of The Rob Scott Show teaches you the hack to stop suffering dead in its tracks.

It’s important to understand that suffering and pain aren’t the same thing. The feeling of pain is a sensation. At times, it’s unavoidable. But, you can experience pain without suffering if you can keep yourself from from judging it as “bad.”

Suffering may arise automatically, but it’s actually caused by our own attention and thought processes.

So the hack is learning to stop your thoughts from keeping you trapped. Begin to notice when you feel yourself suffering. And instead be with “what is,” and less focused on “what isn’t.”

Instead of focusing on what you can’t control, learn to look for the good things in your life. This alone will bring you massive relief.

In this episode we also discuss:

    • Exploring the meaning of suffering.
    • The difference between pain and suffering.
    • Why suffering is a choice.
    • How stories become “ways of being.”
    • Ways to optimize your thinking.
    • Understanding meaning making.
    • How to be “with what is.”
    • The muscle of appreciation.
    • Different perspectives that keep you out of suffering.
    • Who’s responsible for our suffering.
    • Are wishes hurting you?
    • What we can learn from experiencing pain.
    • The move to end suffering forever.
    • How attachment creates suffering.
    • Ways to be more durable in your life.
    • Understanding enlightenment.
    • How gratitude can help end suffering.
    • Changing your attention, changes your suffering.

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Episode 11 – Expand Consciousness and Grow Wisdom in One Move

The world often feels “crazy” to us.

Because of technology, information moves at a faster pace than it ever has. The political climate of today is growing more divisive. We may be in more disagreements with people over different value and belief systems.

A way to “be more wise,” is to be able to understand perspectives different from our own. The ability to do this allows us to be less stressed, less overwhelmed, and less in conflict. The skill of “stepping into another persons shoes” can help you a lot. You make faster progress, gain more respect, and get more access to truth.

See, often our own limited perspectives feel complete to us. It’s a crucial skill to develop the self awareness to know when we are too attached to our own perspective. Most of us, if asked, don’t like to be limited. Imagine going to a restaurant and only getting one page of the menu.

We want to have the “full picture.” So we can be smart, make informed decisions, and have a greater understanding of the world we live in. It’s important to remember that no single perspective holds all the truth.

It’s also useful to be able to identity different “Zones of Agreement.” Multiple perspectives are always arising around us. Finding common ground can help us communicate and connect with other people. The person who can consider other feelings and viewpoints has access to more consciousness.

In this episode we also discuss:

    • How to grow in wisdom.
    • What’s required for real change.
    • Understanding subjective vs objective perspectives.
    • The Scientist vs The Meditator.
    • How our “default” perspective limits us.
    • Exploring the “we” space (intersubjective).
    • Collective belief systems and useful truths.
    • Integral Theory and linguistic perspectives.
    • How different perspectives overlap.
    • Discussing political frameworks.
    • Finding zones of agreement.
    • Difference between compromising and finding a new perspective.
    • The importance of having self awareness.
    • How to be more empathetic.
    • The key to making progress.

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How to Manage Your Levels of Gratification…

Balancing the desire for instant gratification is a crucial skill. We’re not going to be successful if we live in the “extremes.” Sustainability is the key.

There are obvious issues with over indulging in instant gratification. But what’s the danger in landing too hard on the other side? What happens if we only experience delayed gratification?

When we have too much control, or seriously restrict pleasurable behaviors, we can become equally unhealthy.

Think about the analogy of someone struggling with anorexia. Someone constantly delaying gratification to the extreme. What happens to someone who never gives in to the pleasure of eating food? They will experience serious health issues and may even die.

The bigger challenge here is to find the “proper balance of gratification.”

It’s important to practice maintaining a healthy balance of what is “too much” and what is “not enough.” We want to learn how to find joy and beauty in the present moment, and be able to grow over time.

Most of us need to find the right balance with our impulse control. Doing that and having an appreciation for the present moment will change your life.

Check out the full episode here.