We create pressure in our lives unconsciously that can end up making us very unhappy. Some of these pressures are deeper and some are more superficial. One person creates a “have to” situation with accomplishments he/she wants to create at work. Someone else on a daily basis sets up to-do after to-do and then feels bad for what they didn’t accomplish rather than good about what they did accomplish. Jobs can be self created pressure. So can houses, cars, and salaries.
We often aren’t able to appreciate our success once it comes, because it tends to move. I’ve been with successful people and watched them accomplish goals, and rather than enjoy the accomplishment, they immediately and unconsciously create new goals.
So what pressure are you creating? This talk points out that we can spend time working on, or watching, what pressures we create for ourselves. The exercise we could do would be to learn to find your self created limits, or pressures. Once you see what yours are, you may choose to soften them, or you may not. It’s nice to learn that you can lose your job You can move. Your life could be different. The other side of that is the fact that a conscious goal is a powerful one. We can choose to work harder for our pressures if we really want to hold onto them.
External pressure is often actually created by us, and thus is internal pressure. Watch when pressure is created in your life and see if it’s really external pressure. An interesting point is how unconscious these things become. We sit and think “Of course I have to do these things…” It’s good to realize that we can live in the smaller house. We can drive a cheaper car. The kids can go to public school. But they also may not have to. Becoming aware of our pressures allows us to support them or put them down as necessary. It’s up to us.