I want to explain the hard part of simplifying, and why most of us are so bad at it.
Simplifying, at it’s core, is about saying “NO.”
We need to start saying no to over committing, no to new ideas, no to friends and family requests. We need to say no to that new gadget that we won’t really use, and maybe that extra scoop of ice cream as well.
We should say no to most “opportunities” because the cost almost always outweighs the reward. And we definitely need to say no to the requests of others that forward their agenda instead of ours.
We say no so that we can cut away the clutter, and REALLY do the things we say yes to.
How different would your life be if you really did all the things you promised yourself and others you would do?
This can be really hard when we’re overly worried about what others think of us.
”What will happen to Jenny if I don’t do this report?”
”What will Tom think if I say no to golf this week?”
This kind of thinking keeps us trapped.
We need to realize that simplification is about cutting things out. But we’re not cutting things out to have or do less, but rather to bring quality and attention to WHAT REALLY MATTERS in our lives.
Imagine knowing the top three most important things in your life, and focusing in on them with full attention and the time necessary to really do them.
As soon as this makes sense, it becomes easier to start saying no to the things that aren’t as important. When we can say no to the unimportant, life becomes much more manageable, and much more simple.
What are you doing in your life that isn’t aligned with your highest vision for yourself? Go ahead and let me know in the comments.